Create what you desire, don't just push against what you don't
/Put your energy into creating what you want to see in the world, not just against what you don’t.
Here’s something interesting:
The root words of “control” are contra and rota, which mean “against the wheel.”
The roots of “influence” are in and fluere, meaning “in the flow.”
Control is against.
Influence is flow.
We are so much more powerful in a flow state, when we are riding with a current we desire—even if we’re trying to redirect it—than we are when we’re pushing against a current, a force, or someone else.
Pushing against something by attempting to control or overpower actually reinforces the polarity and strengthens each opposing force.
If we’re not careful, we become entrenched in the pushing itself and don’t put any energy into where we’re actually trying to go—which deepens that groove of polarity.
“What we resist, persists.” This is why. This is the trap of the binary.
If we ride the current—or create it—we’re accepting what is AND adding our input to help direct it. It gets us out of the polarity of for/against and into some other possibility.
Choosing not to push against doesn’t have to look like surrender: it can look like transformation.
This is one of the reasons I work with my clients to focus on what they are FOR, how they desire to move the needle—and not just on what they are against.
For sure, there is plenty of work to be done in the world for those of us who hold a vision for a more beautiful planet—but true power comes from creating new possibilities.
Power is drained when we focus solely on resisting the old.
The power of creation amplifies itself. The power of control drains itself.
Make sure you are directing as much energy as possible to the NEW possibility, the one you are here to help create.
This is why I often use creativity as a gateway for self-development + systems evolution with my clients—to get us into our own unique flow of authentic power.
It’s our truest power because it’s generative, procreative, and evolutionary—not just a resistant stance to an external force, which creates a closed, binary system.
Doesn’t it feel more fun to be wild, playful, and expansive to create something with that energy than to try to control everything?
Aren’t there more possibilities in creativity and generativity than there are in destruction?
What’s the thing that only you can create? That’s your r/evolution.