Don’t “man up.” Don’t “man down.” Man ALIVE.

This is a call to those who know they are catalysts.

• We can’t have a real conversation about leadership without having a conversation about the current culture of masculinity.

• We can’t have a holistic conversation about relationships without having a conversation about how mainstream masculinity requires men to show up—or hide.

• We can’t have an authentic conversation about creating a more humanful world without talking about how the Man Box strips men of their humanity—and the ramifications of that for us all.

• Masculinity doesn’t need to be detoxxed, it needs to be healed—led back to its wholeness.

Let’s have these conversations—finally—so you can choose consciously what works for you in life, love, + leadership—and what doesn’t.

If you’re here, you already know that you are a catalyst: you move people. You’re a gamechanger, humanful leader, visionary, paradigm-shifter. This is exactly why I want to work with men like you—we need to create a better game. If you’re courageous enough to develop the inner wealth to complement your outer wealth, to honor the deep aliveness you desire, to be unashamedly YOU, you can become a conscious catalyst for healthy, happy humanity.

This is the difference between being a leader in title only versus being an embodied leader—one who honors the full spectrum of our humanity. We need more conscious leaders.

In our consultations, I'll partner with you to:

• Know your purpose and the contribution you’re here to make by clarifying your core values and desires

• Create more meaningful connections by untangling the unhealthy power patterns + beliefs that are getting in the way

• Understand how your core desires, gifts, and talents are a gift to the world—and to yourself

• Discover what regenerates and revitalizes you, so you can create a life you’re relentlessly in love with—not just the one you think you “should” lead

I’m at my best being your collaborator as you do a deep dive. My teachings are deeply influenced by the following concepts which I think form a universal scaffolding for happy, healthy humans:

• Dominator culture (“patriarchy” is one form) harms everyone, including men. Most people don’t know this, which keeps us trapped in a binary of “us” versus “them.” We’ll explore how systems of domination permeate our lives, and how to begin to unplug from and rewire these patterns so you can define what healthy masculinity and manhood mean to you. I believe that healthy, aligned masculinity isn’t just passively non-toxic, it’s a proactive force for healing in the world.

  • If you’re interested in learning more, please read The Will to Change by bell hooks. This may be the most important book I’ve ever read. I’ve done a LOT of studying masculinities, leadership, power, and connection so you don’t have to.

• It’s time to commit to a culture of collaboration—this is what brings out the true, innate power and brilliance of human beings. Collaboration is an open system: anything is possible. Domination is a closed system: few things are possible and acceptable. Which one sounds evolutionary to you? We’ll develop strategies for you to incorporate more collaboration into your life at work, home, and play.

  • If you’re interested in learning more, please read The Power of Partnership by Riane Eisler.

• We are in an interconnected, reciprocal relationship with all that is. We ARE nature, and we find balance by realigning with it. We’ll devise ways for you to explore your wild, true nature so you never need to “perform yourself” again—unless it’s for fun.

  • If you’re interested in learning more, please read The Spell of the Sensuous and/or Becoming Animal by David Abram.

• We are living in an increasingly antiseptic, antihuman, anti-erotic world. But our senses, sensuality, and eros hold so much of our vitality and power—this is how we know we are living in connection with all that is. We take in data through our senses, and tap into our body’s innate wisdom. We’ll talk about how to tap into your own eros with integrity and alignment. (Note: Though we may speak about sex and sexuality (with consent) as a crucial part of health and happiness, this is NOT a hands-on or sex coaching container. I can refer you to other sexual health/intimacy practitioners if that’s what you’re looking for.)

  • If you’re interested in learning more about cultivating eros, please read The Soul of Sex by Thomas Moore.

• Play is power. Play is flow state. Play is evolution in action. Do more of it.

  • If you’re interested in learning more, go outside and play. Or, read Deep Play by Diane Ackerman.

I'll bring the intuition, intellect, co-creative approach, and out-on-the-edge ideas; you bring your open mind and heart, investment in your vision, and desire for conscious evolution—for yourself and for the world.

In our coaching consultations, I offer you all the tools I've learned in my years of exploration and training. I want you to tap into your TRUEST power: the power that comes from deep integrity mingled with deep desire.

The way you feel when firing on all cylinders, with purpose.

Choose what POWER feels like for YOU—not the narrow, disconnected dominator crap we’ve been sold for so long. Money, status, authority—those can all be taken away, lost, or just lose value with shifting sands. True power comes from within. When you unleash your innate power, you’ll be amazed at what transforms.

Some of the things you'll explore:

• Where are you missing out on life? What’s your next level? We'll chart how you can take action in alignment with your core values and desires

• Feeling isolated? We’ll explore the crucial difference between “power over” versus true, authentic power

• Feeling disconnected? I’ll teach you how to tap into your intuition and the insane amount of information your body has to tell you

• Longing to share your life in a deeper way? We’ll explore an expansive take on connection and partnership: with your lover, your family, your colleagues, your community, and yourself

• Connecting to nature to feel wildly inspired

• Acknowledging vulnerability (which is power in disguise) and learning how to work with it

More and more, I hear from men that they feel restless. Uninspired. Boxed in.

You want more, and know it's out there—but just aren't sure how to attain it.  

We’re in chaotic times; it can be difficult for men to feel comfortable exploring their inner space, because they’ve been sold a lie: that power comes from without. Money. Status. Authority. These things have influence, for sure. But nothing that can be taken away by someone else will ever be truly powerful. Your truest power comes from within, a space men are not often encouraged to explore. It’s time. GO GET YOURS.

Gender roles can be limiting, confusing, and downright damaging. "Being a man" somehow became tied to aggression, dominance, control, hyper-logic, and apathy. Or, men have been told to tamp down their masculinity, that it’s dangerous. Neither of these options honor the full spectrum of who a man is.

Let me be clear: I am not in the business of excusing assholery. From anyone. I am in the business of examining motivations and strategies for getting our needs and desires met, and offering new skills and courage to act on healthier, more aligned options to get what we want.

Men need better options, and, frankly, they need off-ramps from nincompoopery. I can help.

The spectrum of masculine expression has been narrowed down so that many men are squeezing themselves into a limited definition of manhood—one they didn’t even choose. This has had disastrous consequences for us all. Rates of suicide, depression, and violence are rising. So many men tell me they feel incomplete, angry, sad, or just not the men they want to be. Others are kinda happy… but want MORE. To express themselves more fully. To know their purpose. To connect more deeply.

To be in love + lust with life.

Old-paradigm masculinity has been presented in goal-oriented, binary, win at all costs terms, but that’s such a limited view. What might win/win look like? What if the point isn’t even to win, what if it’s to PLAY?

• Connecting deeply in authenticity, not from behind a mask. Can you feel the relief in that?

• Leadership entrusted by your team, not taken from a place of dominance. Can you feel the possibilities of that?

• Empathy, not cutting yourself off from the forces of emotion. Can you feel the power in that?

• Wild enthusiasm, not apathy or cool detachment. Can you feel the energy in that?

• Taking action from a place of purpose, not from conformity. Can you feel the freedom in that?

• Joy. Can you feel how much you’ve been missing that?

• Creating something only you can create. Can you feel the fun of that?

These can all be yours, because they are all… human.

I believe that a healthy society needs healthy, happy people. This includes men.

For anyone to feel authentically healthy and joyful, you must know who you are, and claim every bit of it—while offering others the same respect. 

I was having a conversation about this with someone, and they said, “Men don’t really resonate with the word ‘joy.’” My heart sank. As I look at services and products targeted to men, I rarely see the word '“joy.” I see words like “mastery,” “crushing,” “smashing,” “owning,”—all words of domination, not collaboration.

And that is a tragedy. Because men need joy as much as anyone. The fact that they are trying to get by without it is… heartbreaking.

I believe that when you are able to tap into the power of your heart and express your true nature, your game changes. You see the REAL game, not the small one you’ve been sold.

Authentic power. Success according to your own values. A life worth loving.

As a woman, I've been supported by mentors and friends in my journey to re-discover and express my true self, to learn how to not lose myself when I give myself to others, to revitalize and come back to life after what felt like death.

For men, it's not always so easy. There's often still a stigma that comes along with seeking guidance, simply getting to know yourselves, or asking for help: inner exploration can be seen as fluffy and indulgent; help is for the “weak-willed.” THAT IS B.S. It’s a total, utter, ridiculous scam created to exploit your anger, isolation, and sadness because anger, isolation, and sadness are profitable. I consider this a crime against humanity.

You can see the parts of your life that are misaligned. You feel something missing.

YOU are missing.

Think about it: How can anyone fully thrive, prosper, and know deep joy if we're cutting off or tamping down parts of ourselves? We can't. Each one of us is a system, even when our brains try to run the whole show. Our hearts, bodies, and spirit have a lot to say about things. Listen.

"My mind speaks total fuckery unless I turn my soul on."

(I don't know who said this, but yes!)

Turn on your wild nature. Tap into your purpose, and offer it from a place of reciprocity and generativity.

THAT is living life to the fullest.

THAT is courage.

THAT is what I want for us all.

You are so needed, my wild visionary. We need good men. We need alive men. We need men who are in love + lust with their own damn lives.

If you're a man who wants to claim your authentic power + joy in life, love, and leadership, I would love to connect. 

To undertake this journey takes guts; more men don’t than do. But now it’s YOUR time to ignite. I want to help. Please take the first step right now and book an exploratory call to see if we’re a good fit. What have you got to lose?

I’m rooting for you.