Transform systems by evolving at the individual level.

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Things need to change.

They need to change from the top-down, and the bottom-up.

At the individual level, and at the systems level.

The good news is, everything is reciprocal: so the more you do to heal and evolve, the more the systems around you will be informed by that.

The more the systems you are a part of heal and evolve, the more you will feel the impact of that.

My personal expertise is the intersection of individual self-development and systems evolution. I love diving deep with individuals into what makes them come alive, and I am also a systems-thinker who sees the ripple effects at the collective level.

This is especially true in organizations and institutions—in the workplace.

We can no longer afford to keep self-development sequestered in the realm of individual therapy or coaching.

There is no leadership development without self-development.

Healthy individuals are only as healthy as the systems they are a part of: relationships with themselves, their lovers, their families, their friends, their colleagues, their communities, their organizations, their governing bodies.

And healthy systems are only as healthy as the integrity of the people who work within them.

The best systems will fail us if the people leading them are nincompoops. The best people will fail us if their environment doesn’t allow them to thrive.

If you are a humanful leader, or would like to be, then your own self-development is part of the process. What does that look like?

• Practicing curiosity rather than judgment.

• Learning how to work with your ego and triggers (and others’) without letting those egos and triggers run the show.

• Up-leveling your skills of collaboration.

• Learning how to connect authentically—not from behind a mask.

• Creating a safe, inclusive environment: radical belonging.

• Establishing a culture of giving and receiving feedback fluently, so everyone gets crucial intelligence about course-corrections that need to take place.

• Learning how to create sound strategies—and then sticking to them by creating and measuring objectives and tasks that dovetail with them.

• Defining what good leadership means to you personally.

• Identifying your particular gifts, and how you use them in service of your leadership.

• Understanding that leadership is a service position. If you don’t see it that way, your ego may be running the show. (That’s amendable, if you choose.)

• Respecting your colleagues as whole humans. (If you don’t, then kindly reassess whether you are meant to be a leader. Not everyone is, and that’s okay.)

• Learning how to work with emergence.

• Understanding that leadership is an embodied stance of showing up human—not simply a role or job title.

If you want better systems—more inclusive companies, less exploitation, more collaboration, less domination—then start with yourself.

Build the awareness, skills, and courage to act in integrity with your humanity.

All things change when we do.

If you know your own self-development is connected to the greater good, and if you’re looking for a collaborator to hone your skills and dive deep so you can fly high, let me know. You’re my type.

What it means to rewild

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What it means to rewild

In ecology, rewilding is a movement that allows the natural world time to replenish after cultivation: time to rest, enrich, and realign with her innate intelligence, patterns, and rhythms.

What if humans allowed ourselves a similar process of rewilding? Of rediscovering our true nature?

This could look like…

• Learning how to tune into our intuition

• Rediscovering our instincts

• Learning how to listen to our bodily wisdom

• Naming our strategies for getting our needs and desires met

• Expressing ourselves authentically

• Taking off our masks so we can connect fully and freely

• Reclaiming our passion

• Claiming our truest power

• Creating: a gift, an idea, a poem, art, a project, a paradigm… whatever wildly unique offering you have singing beneath your skin, ready to surge through you. 

When we untangle ourselves from outdated conditioning, stories, and habits, allow ourselves space to sieve through our own rich soil, then plant seeds for a new vision and nourish our deepest desires… we bloom.

Our blood remembers how to sing.

I developed the Creative Rewilding journey as a regenerative process to restore ourselves to our natural state of curiosity, creativity, and vibrancy.

To reignite our fire.

To wander between our inner and outer landscapes.

To tune in to our unique gifts and values, align with patterns in nature.

To fall in love + lust with our own lives—so we can use that as scaffolding to “code” our life force and create what only we can create. 

To fire up our own life force so it can surge through us.

This is generative activism: We transform the world by aligning with its natural rhythms and patterns. And our own.

You know you have a gift you’re meant to offer the world.

The Creative Rewilding process will help you clarify what that is and shift limiting perspectives, so you can GIVE IT. It's needed.

Your greatest gift is someone else’s deepest desire. Will you give it?

To heal masculinity is to honor femininity

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To heal masculinity is to honor femininity.

As much as we need to heal masculinity, we need to honor + elevate femininity.

It’s no secret that humans are terrified of the feminine. She has been subjugated, abused, mocked, erased, silenced, burned, buried, violated for so long we no longer see the myriad ways this continues.

After all, the feminine is the great unknowable force—the dark, tangled chaos of pure potential, rather than the clean lines of what’s already known.

She’s the creativity that disrupts the assembly line.

The sensuality that disrupts untouchable order.

The intuition that disrupts reason.

The empathy that disrupts the need for violence.

She f*cks with predictable profits of arbitrary systems.

But because masculinity has not been healed, still a shadow of what it could be—though it is finally in the process of healing—it has not had the balls to meet her where she is: to be potentiated by the full force of the feminine.

Worse, masculinity KNOWS it has chosen the smaller game, and hates her for it. And so, it has tried to make her go away.

We only dominate what we fear. And whatever gets dominated has no choice but to grow stronger in order to survive.

Plot twist, baby.

Clean, rational lines haven’t gotten us what we need—nor has oppressing the feminine or celebrating the imbalanced boy-masculine.

Healthy, happy lives need more dimension: more diversity, more creativity, more intuition, more body, more empathy, more expression, more color, more connection, more nurturing, more daring. More damn sunlight, clean water, rich earth. More possibility.

We need healthy masculinity to MEET—not subdue or submit to—healthy femininity in order to feel our human power + align fully with life.

As we potentiate ourselves, we need to embed the healthy feminine into our systems: our familial systems, our economic systems, governments, businesses, processes, methods, coding, data, narratives, science—to align them with the full spectrum of life, not just profits.

And life is the gift of the feminine: Real, embodied, shifting, emergent, entangled life. A high-quality life worth living + loving. 

Welcome to the divine feminine. She sees you, and she raises you—because she longs to be fully MET in her full power.

Create what you desire, don't just push against what you don't

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Put your energy into creating what you want to see in the world, not just against what you don’t.

Here’s something interesting:

The root words of “control” are contra and rota, which mean “against the wheel.”

The roots of “influence” are in and fluere, meaning “in the flow.”

Control is against.

Influence is flow.

We are so much more powerful in a flow state, when we are riding with a current we desire—even if we’re trying to redirect it—than we are when we’re pushing against a current, a force, or someone else.

Pushing against something by attempting to control or overpower actually reinforces the polarity and strengthens each opposing force.

If we’re not careful, we become entrenched in the pushing itself and don’t put any energy into where we’re actually trying to go—which deepens that groove of polarity.

“What we resist, persists.” This is why. This is the trap of the binary.

If we ride the current—or create it—we’re accepting what is AND adding our input to help direct it. It gets us out of the polarity of for/against and into some other possibility.

Choosing not to push against doesn’t have to look like surrender: it can look like transformation.

This is one of the reasons I work with my clients to focus on what they are FOR, how they desire to move the needle—and not just on what they are against.

For sure, there is plenty of work to be done in the world for those of us who hold a vision for a more beautiful planet—but true power comes from creating new possibilities.

Power is drained when we focus solely on resisting the old.

The power of creation amplifies itself. The power of control drains itself.

Make sure you are directing as much energy as possible to the NEW possibility, the one you are here to help create.

This is why I often use creativity as a gateway for self-development + systems evolution with my clients—to get us into our own unique flow of authentic power.

It’s our truest power because it’s generative, procreative, and evolutionary—not just a resistant stance to an external force, which creates a closed, binary system.

Doesn’t it feel more fun to be wild, playful, and expansive to create something with that energy than to try to control everything?

Aren’t there more possibilities in creativity and generativity than there are in destruction?

What’s the thing that only you can create? That’s your r/evolution.